First, let me say that I do not hate being a parent. However, there are many days in the last 25 years of my life that I’ve wondered why I became a parent and what life would be like if I had never had children. I think every normal parent has this cross their mind at some time in their life. I am a mother of six. Two by birth, four by marriage and we have six grandkids with another on the way. I wouldn’t change any of that for anything in this world and I love them all dearly. BUT….
1. I have to be responsible to my children for everything that I say, do, write, don’t do, etc. If I do something that I wouldn’t want my child to do, doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing, just not something I would want him or her to do, then I know I can’t do it because I have to be responsible to them. Sometimes I just want to do the irresponsible things that younger people get to do and I can’t. I guess you could say I’m greedy in that aspect.
2. Kids are expensive. I don’t care if you have that perfect child that has perfect attendance, makes straight A’s and never makes you mad or if you have that kid that has broken every rule in the book. Either way, they cost a fortune. There are times when I get jealous of people who don’t have kids and can spend their hard earned money on nice vacations, beautiful homes, the best cars, the name brand clothes or anything else they please. I don’t have that option. My kids come first and I must make sure they have everything they need to succeed in life. That means my desires take a back burner.
3. I have to worry about where I live. I want to live out in the middle of the country. But with kids, you have to be sure you live in an area that has the best schools. I don’t want to care about schools. I just want land, rolling hills, fields, forest, trees, cows, wildlife, dirt roads, back roads, no traffic. I don’t want to be around people. I want privacy. But living in privacy doesn’t afford your average parent with the best schools because most of us average parents can’t afford to send their children to private schools and have to settle for the county schools. Therefore causing us to choose housing in those more populated counties that offer a better education.
4. Kids catch your mistakes! No matter how insignificant the mistake may be to you, your child will remember it and find a way to bring it up later in your life causing you a headache worse than a migraine!
5. I have an amazing husband who deserves 100% of me all the time. But that doesn’t happen because we have children. I would like to have 100% of him all the time as well. But kids take precedence and we temporarily take a back seat until our nest is empty. Plus it really grosses out the kids when they hear noises coming from their parents bedroom on a regular basis.
6. Being a parent is really difficult. Kids don’t come with an instruction manual nor do they come with the same mindset as you do. They are fully automated and rarely think like you do or like you want them to all of the time. They have their own personalities that will vary greatly from your own or what you would like theirs to be.
I am blessed every day to share my life with my husband, children and grandchildren. My God is an Awesome God and he has blessed me beyond measure. I wouldn’t take all the stars in the heavens or all the money on the earth for any one of my children. I know I have a tendency to be somewhat selfish, but the reality of it is that my kids are my priority and my selfishness will remain pushed deep down inside where no one can hear it or see it. I’m only two children away from having an empty nest. Four down two to go. I got this. For now, I will blog about my wants and desires, but will live my life as I normally do…taking care of my family.
Have a blessed day and a blessed 2014!